Carl: Tammy I'm gonna love you forever and ever Amen

He's not an ax murderer......

I was feeling kind of bad about my last blog...especially my talking about Carl's 'past' being the center of all of our disagreements. Let me clarify if I may. It's not that Carl's past is awful...he's never been in jail, never killed anyone, never hurt anyone.....it's just that I NEVER had to deal with a past at all. As many of you know, Rick and I met when we were 13 and 17....and we were together for 36 years....so it was just me and Rick. No exes, no ex-girlfriends....no nothing. Dealing with a past is all new to me but we are moving forward by leaps and bounds. I've asked everything you could ask...sorry Carl....and I know things I probably would rather not know... but I asked ! So...it is what it is. Carl and I are blissfully happy 99% of the time. He really is a wonderful man...so smart and funny and affectionate.( Lucky for me, nobody from his 'past' realized this.) I love the way he loves me and the way he loves my kids and grand kids. And the way he plays guitar and sings to me.He is very good to me...and I love him very much !

We haven't killed each other yet!!!! Tee hee

It's been over a year now and we have had our ups and downs...................

      Some of our 'ups' were........trip to Karen's in Colorado, and Kansas, Illinois, Kentucky, Missouri. We enjoyed ourselves on that trip. In September, we attended Karen's daughter, Katelin's wedding in Charleston, SC. Then we spent a week in Myrtle Beach. Also we attended Doug's daughter Ashley's wedding in Clinton..Speaking of weddings...Carl and I were thinking about the date for our wedding as being 11/11/11. Obviously that date has come and gone...so now we are thinking 12/12/12..that would be easy for us to remember....Our little princess Ellie Claire was born on January 14, 2011...it's hard to believe that she will be a year old soon...how time flies! Carl has been painting the house inside as we would like to sell and downsize to simplify our lives.. we are all about simplifying these days....we think Keri has it right when she says "The less you own,,,the less owns you."
     As for the downs......Yes we have had some pretty intense quarrels....usually over his past and my inability to get over it !!! Hey, I own it ! But we are definitely moving in the right direction. And it really helps if I get enough sleep. Right honey? (Carl says 'Amen to that !') We said some ugly things to each other...mostly unwarranted. I sped off a couple times in a rage...and once Carl had to go to the emergency room because his blood pressure got dangerously high. No...we are NOT proud of any of this drama. But Carl and I are both stubborn as mules...we butt heads sometimes ! Or you could say sometimes we are butt heads. But in the end, we know we were meant to be together. We finish each other's sentences. We read each other's minds. We have a connection that cannot be denied.We have a mutual admiration and intense love for each other. We are sure that we will spend the rest of our lives together. Our love is strong.
       

Change your thoughts and change your world !!

I have to admit to being that 'green-eyed monster' sometimes where Carl is concerned. And I HATE that about me....it's not too great for Carl either. We really do love each other and are planning our future together.

White Plains - My Baby Loves Lovin'

Still Going Strong....

It has been 6 months since I first laid eyes on Carl Barger. The spark has turned into a flame...we are so much in love ! Things moved so quickly in the beginning. We both felt like God brought us together...with a little help from Facebook...and Carl's corny comments. Carl spent the night on our second date. That was some second date...he left at 2:45 the next day !He also told me he loved me on our second date...the feeling was mutual. I was ready to start dating again but couldn't have imagined the rush of emotions, the euphoria, the craziness, sleepless nights....the whole thing was like a 'whirlpool of hormones' ! I mean that in a good way ! If I wasn't with Carl, we were talking on the phone until 1 or 2 in the morning...knowing that I had to go to work in the morning. On our 3rd date we saw the movie Despicable Me. Carl sang out loud during the movie...he's a very outgoing guy...not what I was used to but I loved  his carefree ways. It was obvious to me (and everyone else in the theater )that this man was happy. We had dinner at Arbys. An older woman stopped us and asked if we were newlyweds. We both thought that was awesome. The physical attraction between us was 'off the charts' insane. Actually...it still is. We just can't get enough of one another. Carl moved in with me about 3 weeks after we met. He goes to church with me every Sunday...he loves my kids and grandkids...he makes beef sticks for me to take for lunch...We were definitely meant to be.

Humming Bird-Signs

     My mother was one to take signs literally .....a cardinal, seen in the front yard meant that we could expect company. A burning sensation in the ears..someone was gossiping about you.

     Right after the first date, with Tammy, I was sitting in the living room at the house where I rented. While drinking coffee, I saw a humming bird fly up to the living room picture window.....now, my mother God rest her....explained to me that if a humming bird showed up in your window,...it was a sign that something fast would happen in your life .....and it was true, something happened very fast, I fell in love, to the most wonderful girl in the world....Tammy....The humming bird shown on each side of the page is a reminder of that event....

Tammy's recollection of meeting Carl

It was August 2010. My Rick had been gone for over a year and it was time for me to begin living again. I posted 'Free to a good man' and then 'Rent to own' but had no takers. Carl posted a comment about how he'd done that and it didn't work out. I commented back that I came with a John Deere and a gas grill. He responded with...'what about a bass boat?' OUCH !! I had been reading his daily posts...all his jokes and word of the day...and honestly I thought he was corny and very flirtatious. And maybe a bit arrogant. (Sorry honey but I'm being honest here.) He posted the word 'wouldja' on August 10th using the sentence 'Wouldja like to see a movie?' I commented...'Are you asking me to see a movie?' He then posted something corny about going dutch and having wooden shoes. I responded that actually I did have wooden shoes. And the next thing I knew I had a private message from Carl Barger asking me if I would like to see a movie. I was elated...giddy actually. Maybe this dating thing wasn't going to be so hard after all. At least I saw it as a date ! Carl later told me that he was just planning on taking me to a movie as a 'friend'. So I sent him a text back explaining that I had lost my husband and was just starting to date and I would love to go see a movie with him. And I sent him my cell and home # and told him to call at 7 the next evening. So on August 11th, he called right at 7. We talked for over an hour. He made me laugh a lot but there were moments of silence too. He even said at one point...'this is awkward'. Carl wanted to come out to meet me that night but I told him we would do it the next evening. I think it was 6 when he got to my house on August 12. I was so nervous but really excited too. I loved his deep phone voice and thought his new FB picture was nice. The doorbell rang. I nervously opened the door and 'wow'...there was this adorable tall man who raised his eyebrows at me and said 'Hi'. I was grinning from ear to ear and told him that his facebook picture did not do him justice. We had talked on the phone about sitting in the swing and getting to know each other to see if there was any chemistry before deciding to go to dinner but there was no need. I walked up to him and gave him a hug and said...let's go to dinner. We went to Outback...I was so nervous...he told me how cute he thought I was...several times...and I was just thinking about what a doll he was.Uh...we didn't make it to the movie but instead went to Melton Hill park to...uh...well...park. We were making out when the security guard ran us off. Deja vu...but I was only 15 the first time ! Everything felt so right that night...the way I fit in his arms...the way he slow danced with me...the passionate kisses. It was a magical first date. ♥ Carl asked me to be exclusive with him that night. I didn't see anything wrong with that...the feeling was mutual but my family and friends...well lets just say they did not agree...and leave it at that. I was so euphoric after he left me that night. Our 2nd date lasted from 8 p.m. Saturday until 2:45 Sunday afternoon. That was some second date ! I was already in love with this man...madly in love...and thinking I was going to be lucky in love for the second time.

How it really was

Carl's recollection of meeting Tammy

   
     Here goes my account,(as much as I can remember), of how I met the love of my life....It was August and I was posting Jokes, she says are corny, and Tennessee Language 101 words, on Facebook,  that a lot of the older Tennesseans, as well as, younger ones say while talking...one of the things I like is the way people speak.

     Tammy (Meeks) Stooksbury, one of my friends on Facebook, had posted......"Free to a good man".....and "Rent to Own".....at the time I thought she was just joking around. However, I posted my Tennessee Language 101 word for the day.."Wouldya...Used in a sentence...Wouldya like to go see a movie?....She posted.." Are you asking me out? Wink Wink  ; ).".......I thought to myself..."Hmmmm....I wonder if she would like to go see a movie"....Only on a friendship type basis..so I sent an invitation to her via Facebook messaging .... and she sent me her phone numbers.....I called and talked to her on August the 11th of 2010 and she said she would like to see a movie with me........on august the 12th I went to her house to take her to the movie......I knocked on the door and when she opened it..her eyes met mine and she hugged me and I hugged her...we sat on the front porch swing and kissed....boy is she a good kisser! Love at first sight!  Instead of going to the movie, we had dinner at Outback Steak house, then, left there and went to Melton Hill Park in Hardin Valley...stayed there until the park security threw us out..we still laugh about that....Everything was good!.....and still is!